Rewrite the patterns and blocks that keeps you stuck
and sabotage your relationship

BECOME INTIMATE WITH ALL THAT YOU ARE

The Journey

FROM STUCK IN A STAGNANT OR PAINFUL RELATIONSHIP TO DEEPLY CONNECTED INTIMACY

THE STEPS IN OUR WORK TOGETHER

The following steps are not a rigid linear process but more like a spiral with some of the steps happening somewhat in parallel. This is only meant to give you an idea, a high-level path for our journey.

These steps describe the territory we may move through — not outcomes that are forced or rushed.

STEP 1: Coming into clarity about alignment.

We begin by exploring your inner truth about the relationship you are in.

This is not about deciding quickly, fixing anything, or pressuring yourself toward a particular outcome. It is about slowing down enough to honestly sense what you are participating in, what you long for, and whether the relationship you are in has the conditions to support deep intimacy for you.

We look at where you may be overriding your own needs, minimizing your truth, or staying in familiar patterns out of fear, hope, or responsibility.

Sometimes this process leads to a renewed capacity to show up differently in the relationship. Sometimes it brings the painful but clarifying realization that the relationship, as it is, cannot meet your desire for intimacy.

If the relationship cannot continue in an aligned way, acknowledging this truth — rather than fighting it — is a crucial step in ending self-abandonment.

While this exploration can be difficult, it is held with care, honesty, and without pressure to decide prematurely. Clarity unfolds at a pace that respects your nervous system and your lived reality.

STEP 2: Working with your inner patterns

We turn our attention to the inner patterns that shape how you relate — emotionally, somatically, and relationally.

Together, we explore the habits, beliefs, attachment strategies, and protective responses that may keep you disconnected from yourself or from intimacy. This includes noticing where you may over-function, withdraw, accommodate, control, or abandon your own truth in order to maintain connection.

The focus here is not on analyzing your partner or the dynamics between you, but on coming into greater wholeness within yourself — so you can remain present, honest, and self-respecting in relationship.

As you develop awareness and capacity in yourself, your way of relating naturally changes. In relationships that are aligned, this often coincides with both people taking responsibility for their own inner work. This is not something you can cause or require — only something you can model through your own integrity.

This step continues regardless of whether the relationship deepens or ends, and it becomes the foundation for how you relate moving forward.

STEP 3: Relating from wholeness

As you come into greater wholeness within yourself, your way of relating begins to change.

You may find yourself more grounded, more honest, and less willing to abandon yourself in order to maintain connection. This can look like clearer communication, firmer boundaries, and a greater capacity to stay present with discomfort — without over-functioning, withdrawing, or managing the other person’s experience.

In relationships that are aligned, this shift can create space for a deeper and more authentic connection.
If the relationship is not aligned, this same capacity supports you in staying true to yourself rather than returning to familiar patterns.

This step is not about achieving a particular relational outcome, but about inhabiting a different way of being in relationship — one rooted in self-responsibility and integrity.

STEP 4: Integrating what continues to emerge

As you relate from a different place, new emotions, thoughts, and patterns will continue to surface.

This may happen within an existing relationship, in a new relationship, or in your relationship with yourself after an ending. Each new context reveals additional layers of your inner world and offers further opportunities for awareness and integration.

Rather than trying to eliminate these activations, we work with them skillfully — learning to stay present, curious, and grounded as they arise.

This phase is not always easy, but it is essential for building the capacity to sustain intimacy without reverting to old patterns or self-abandonment.

STEP 5: Living from relational maturity

There is no final arrival in life or in relationship — only an ongoing capacity to meet what arises with greater awareness and integrity.

Over time, as you walk this path, you develop the relational maturity to navigate the inevitable ups and downs of intimacy and life. You become more able to recognize your patterns without being overtaken by them, to take responsibility for your inner experience, and to remain present rather than reactive.

This doesn’t mean relationships become effortless. It means you are no longer oriented around fixing, chasing, or abandoning yourself in order to maintain connection.

From this place, you are able to engage in relationships — existing or future — with greater clarity, self-trust, and emotional availability, choosing partners and dynamics that align with who you have become.

LOOK WITH ME INTO THE FUTURE

Imagine being truly loved by your partner, feeling fully seen, respected and understood...

As you wake up in the morning, your partner sleeping sweetly beside you..
you lay in bed for a while, listening to his deep breathing and you smile to yourself.
You love him dearly.

Quietly you sneak out of bed to begin your day without waking him up.
You open the window and take a deep breath in the cool crisp morning air.

As you brush your teeth and comb your grey hair you look into your own eyes
you have walked a long path together, you and your partner. You may have been together for many decades, raised a family together..

Or maybe you came together in a later chapter in life, either way, you know each other well.

There is mutual respect that come with deep acceptance of each other.

You love and enjoy each others strength and you know each others less than beautiful side too. But you do not focus on that. You've long since learned to laugh at your own failings, make amends when they arise, then move on.

It is easy to do it for your partner too, and he does the same for you.

You know you love and cherish each other so deeply that when the less then amazing side of either of you rise to the surface you deal with it together. You do not sweep it under the rug, so it does not have a chance to accumulate, and you do not blow it out of proportion either.

You know yourself deeply
you know your partner and he knows you deeply too.

You keep growing together with every new experience you share, because you know this is what life is about.

But it wasn't always this way...

Once, a long time ago, you were stuck in a relationship that did not feel good
and you longed so deeply for the kind of intimacy you now have..

Next steps

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